a question for attachment-savvy parents

Okay, so, here is the situation.

1. Dandy wakes up bright-eyed and bushy-tailed and Chickadee and I, well, we are very fond of lazy restful mornings.
2. Dandy wakes up starving.
3. Dandy loves to cook.

From an attachment point of view, I'm supposed to be the great food-dispenser, the goddess of all things yummy. From a practical point of view, he is the obvious choice for breakfast cook.

Am I doing him a disservice by letting him provide breakfast?


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11 much appreciated comments :

Cambria said...

I don't think so. My 7 and 9 year old are very "confident" in their ability to provide themselves breakfast and actually like to have the choice of what to make. If he is not upset by it and seems capable, I say let him have it!

Heather said...

Absolutely not! God has given each of us gifts that we are to use in the capacity He provides--sounds like the perfect choice to me.

Rachael said...

It sounds like a very practical solution. If he makes a mean pancake and knows how to clean up after himself, all the better. :)

Suzanne said...

He's been on a Dutch Baby binge all month. I'll post the recipe and a great pic next Monday.

Lauri said...

Not at all.. I think it is great that he can make his own breakfast... and at some point we have to start worrying less about attachment and it also shows that you trust him to be safe in the kitchen. So I think that this is a good thing

Tricia said...

I think that having him do things for himself will build confidence and show to him that you trust his abilities. Show him what to do, praise him when he does well, and show him how he can do better if he doesn't. Ask him to "check in" with you periodically and that will get him used to coming to you for help and guidance. And that's a good attachment activity!

Debbie said...

I can't imagine that it would hurt attachment. It would give him confidence that you trust him and that would go towards attachment.

Suzanne said...

I hadn't thought of that Debbie, thanks.

Suzanne said...

I hadn't thought of that Debbie, thanks.

j said...

I love it when my muffin gets up and brings the paper and makes me coffee. Ok, when he first learned he could do it (he's a very capable worker, naturally) he did it often. I am now lucky when he thinks of it once every few months. However, morning is his jolly time and he uses it to be thoughtful and it gives him an opportunity to be kind when he feels like it. I like to think of it as his way of helping me with some of my attachment disorder:)

Suzanne said...

oh I hadn't thought of that aspect either - that it is a place for him to show affection, invest in others. THANKS!


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