I realized that my folks think I should be protecting them from harm and I think I should be helping them make better choices. If they step on a rock they'll remember to wear their shoes. If they tumble from the ledge into the shrubs in their bathing suits, they'll remember to get dressed before scaling the porch again. I have advised them to wear shoes, check for appropriate clothing etc., but I don't require it. When they bring me their Ouches! I snuggle them and give sympathy and ask them what they learned. "Wear shoes!" "Get dressed." I count this as success.
My question for you is, do you mainly try to protect your kids? or give them learning opportunities and sympathy?